Well you stood there with me in the doorway / my hands shake
I’m not usually this way but / You pull me in and I’m a little more brave
It’s the first kiss, it’s flawless, really something, it’s fearless
I am not talking about the kind of fearlessness that is synonymous with stupidity; walking into a lion’s cage may be fearless but it is also stupid. Being fearless is about knowing where your box is, and your ability to reach outside of it. Growing, changing, and becoming the person you are meant to be cannot happening without fighting the fear that comes with breaking away from your comfortable situation. Like Dumbledore taught us we will have to make the choice between what is right and what is easy (although we will never have to make the choice to fight Voldemort or not, but you know what he was saying). It is always easier to make the easy choice, stay where you are at, and life continue on but what takes courage is to be able to make the right decision to better yourself.
I have a friend who was deciding if she wanted to leave for a year to go to school or stay home and attend school here; its a big decision with lots of different factors to consider. We talked in circles about the what-ifs of all the different situations that could arise if she stayed or didn’t stay. In the end her decision was to stay here, which I respect, but as I was listening to the reasons why she was going to stay at home affected how I looked at the decisions that I was making. When I was thinking about her reasons later it occurred to me that reasons like it costs too much, my family isn’t there, meeting new people to leave, etc. all sum up to not wanting to leave the comfort zone. Its a little scary to think about the future, but what is even more scary is being in the same place you were five years ago. Having no regrets is such a cliche thing to aspire to, but sooner or later you will miss out on opportunities because you were scared.
I am not belittling her decision, what is right for her might be different than what I agree with. But I was able to take what I learned from listening to her and apply it to my own decisions that were being limited by my fear in the unknown future. Taking a risk and acknowledging to myself that I am stepping out of the box without fear gives me enough satisfaction to pick myself up from possible setbacks and failures and know that I am capable of stepping up when need be. So when I had to make the decision to apply for a job in Cali (and have to move there if I get it) all of the same reasons came through my head, including relationships, my house, my dog, etc. but then I stopped myself and thought about it and came to the decision, why not? What’s wrong with getting a tan and a little adventure for awhile? What if I don’t even get the job? Accepting that I could be moving when I applied was out of my comfort zone; it is a scary thought but I can’t be all talk and no action-living in Cali has been my dream for a really long time.
Its easier said then done, by no means have I conquered all my fears and let my dreams replace logic, but in order to have a bit more fearlessness in my life, I always have to reassure myself that everything is going to be okay. If you look back at any decision you made (good or bad, mostly) everything probably turned out okay, and by okay I mean you probably didn’t die, or become homeless, or lose all your friends and family. Therefore, any decision you make in the future will probably turn out okay too, possibly make things better than they were before. Isn’t there always lessons to be learned?
It always seems impossible until it’s done
Tie in to the oufit? If you want to wear bright pink shoes to the office, then wear bright pink shoes. Be fearless in your fashion – all black is not the best example, but black was what I was feeling so that’s what I wore. Especially as a female in the corporate world, it can feel like you basically have to wear a suit and tie to fit in with the boys, but that is so boring and box-like. Pink shoes were invented for a reason. Your shoes, your look, and your confidence should allow you to wake up and be awesome on the daily; be fearless in all that you do (except when around dangerous animals).